Dating can feel like trying to thread a needle in a dark room—every choice counts, and finding the right path can be tricky. Today’s story is about a first date that went off the rails, all because of one major issue: being late.
Here’s how it unfolded:
I had a first date set up with a woman I met on a dating website. We decided to meet for coffee at 2 p.m. I was excited and arrived right on time. But then, at 2:10 p.m., my phone buzzed. It was a text from her asking, “Are you at the café?”
I replied, “Yes, I’m here.”
Then she sent back a surprising message: “I’m still at home but I’ll leave shortly. I’ll be there in about 20 minutes.”
I couldn’t believe it. It felt like she was waiting to see if I was really there before she even left her house. I was put off. I had taken the chance and arrived on time, and I expected her to do the same. Was I wrong to feel that way?
As I sat there sipping my coffee, the minutes ticked by. By 2:30, I decided I had waited long enough. She still wasn’t there, and I felt disrespected. So, I finished my drink and left the café.
At 2:45, I got another text from her asking, “Where are you? I just got here!”
I replied, “I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren’t there as promised.”
That’s when the drama began. She fired back with a string of angry texts, calling me terrible and saying I had done everything wrong. “You should have let me know you were leaving!” she insisted.
But I couldn’t help but wonder—do women really expect men to sit and wait for 45 minutes? And when the only reason for the delay seems to be to make the guy wait? It felt like a game or a test, and she definitely failed this one.
I’d love to hear from women about this. Was I wrong to leave when she didn’t show up? Or was this situation just unfair from the start?
