On Reddit, a woman shared a story that got a lot of attention. She talked about how her fiancé often teased her for making more money than he did, and he expected her to pay for meals—not just for herself, but also for him and his friends.
After she received a 30% raise, she explained, “My fiancé (37) and I got engaged five months ago. We usually avoid talking about money because he doesn’t like it that way. But after my recent pay increase, he started using the fact that I earn 30% more as a reason for me to cover the bills for him and his friends.
Whenever I refused or questioned him, he would say, ‘the 30%—that’s why,’ suggesting that I didn’t deserve my raise or that it was unfair.”
Before they went out one night, she made it clear: “I won’t be paying this time.” He had tricked her into paying in the past, often asking her to cover meals in front of his friends. Being too polite, she would smile and pay to avoid conflict, especially in public places like restaurants.
Last Tuesday, when he invited her to dinner with his friends, she stated firmly, “I will not be paying for their meals.” He seemed okay with that, saying, “Got this, no worries.”
But during dinner, her fiancé leaned over and whispered, “You’re going to pay again.” She softly replied, “No.” She felt he was counting on her to stay quiet in front of his friends. Then he added, “You have enough money to pay for everyone’s food.” That pushed her over the edge.
Feeling very angry, she decided to leave after settling her own bill. “I kept my cool instead of reacting angrily. After our orders were taken and the bills divided, I paid for mine, excused myself to the bathroom, then slipped out and drove home.”
Later, her fiancé started texting and calling, asking where she was. She texted back, explaining how upset she felt about the situation and how he had tricked her into paying for him and his friends. “I told him I was going home,” she said, and then she stopped replying.
An hour later, he showed up at her place, furious. He started yelling at her, calling her selfish, irrational, a cheapskate, and childish for sneaking out and leaving him with a bill he couldn’t pay. “He had to call his brother for help!” she recalled, still feeling the tension from their argument. After their heated exchange, he stormed out.
His friends didn’t approach her about it, but he mentioned that they were disappointed in her actions and suggested he rethink the kind of woman he wanted to marry.
In that moment, she felt a whirlwind of emotions—anger, sadness, and confusion. Was it time to reconsider their relationship?
